I’ll show you some effective exercises that will prove to be a great deal of help in conquering premature ejaculation and achieving longer lasting sex. These exercises are based on NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming.
As it has been popularly utilized for other areas in life, you might already be somewhat familiar with this innovative technique. For those of you who are not familiar with NLP – NLP offers you an effective way to turn inhibiting thoughts into useful ones. In therapy, various NLP techniques are being used to successfully treat phobias, depression, mental and physical trauma and for eliminating bad habits such as smoking. It can even be successfully used to control and shape your decision-making and thoughts, to improve your life perspective.
NLP is a tool that helps you can hack your brain with new behavioral patterns, leading to better outcomes in different areas of your life. Using specifically designed NLP exercises, you will learn to shed your fears and negative, patterned sexual behavior and regain confidence in bed.
What ii does is actually a rewiring of the subconscious mind in order to achieve longer lasting sex.
NLP was established by Dr. Richard Bandler in the 1970s and is supported by studies from Yale: http://www.yale.edu/acmelab/articles/Bypassing_the_Will_2005.pdf
Do you want to see a quick, practical demonstration? Try this:
1. Go to the middle of the room
2. Stretch your arms out straight in front of you
3. Turn your torso to the right as far as you can
4. Memorize that maximum point that you’ve reached
Now, retract your arms and go back to the starting position. Close your eyes and use your imagination to visualize doing the exact same exercise. Consider just one difference: This time, you are a rubber person. Imagine how effortlessly you could turn your torso in a complete circle. Turn back and then turn around in a circle again, this time faster. Repeat this twice.
Open your eyes and try the same turn again. In 95% of all cases, people will be able to turn 40% farther than before! That’s the amazing power of your mind over your body – your brain will always try to realize everything that you can imagine.
Take the edge off negative memories
Do you have especially bad or sad, negative memories of situations during or after sex? This might be something extremely traumatic, like being laughed at by your partner, or maybe getting “only” a condescending look from her. Everybody has their own demons and they’re just as bad. If you believe your memories cause you to have sexual anxiety, try these next exercises. They will help you to dissociate yourself from the traumatic experiences of your past and release them. Even if you aren’t troubled by irrational thoughts or traumatic memories, you can still benefit from these exercises – you never know what your subconscious mind is hiding.
Now, it’s important that you do these exercises in private, without being interrupted or disturbed. This will help you focus and get the best out of them.
1. Close your eyes and picture yourself sitting in an empty movie theater. The lights are dimmed and the screen is black.
2. On the screen, visualize whatever memory you have chosen to overcome. Turn the traumatic scene into a full film clip that you can play from beginning to end.
3. For the opening of your clip, choose a point in time when you still felt safe and everything was still whole. The same goes for the end scene – picture an ending that shows how the painful situation is over.
4. Repeat the scene, but this time in black/white and twice as fast. Pay attention to the voices of the people in your clip and how they change while you fast-forward.
5. Now, have some funny background music accompany the film, e.g. circus theme music, or perhaps “I like big butts.” Make the entire situation as comical as possible.
6. Give the person who caused the bad memory an ugly, green nose and a pair of big ears. Play with his/her size; let him/her shrink while making yourself appear much bigger & stronger.
7. If the person said something insulting, make his/her character voice sound funny, like the voice of Mickey Mouse or Goofy.
8. Replay the movie several times with those changes included—forwards and backwards.
9. When the scene stops being a threat to you, float out of your seat and into the movie – experience seeing the situation from the first person with all the added changes. Then float back out of the screen back onto your seat and open your eyes.
Our memories are like grooves on a record album. Once the grooves for the record needle are pressed, we will replay the same old “record” over and over again. This exercise helps us jump over those grooves and interrupt those bad memories.
Try it. Try to think about those bad memories; it’s pretty hard, isn’t it? Most people just can’t recall their bad memories anymore after the exercise, or they simply can’t seem to take them seriously anymore. If you don’t feel a change, try the exercise again and play some more with the extra effects to see what works best for you.
You can repeat this exercise for all the other negative experiences.